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Post by spaniardx on Jan 19, 2018 14:24:29 GMT -5
Well, yeah, posting it on FB like she did was vengeful and juvenile. And she did this, apparently, because she did not get her way. Which is probably what she was referencing by claiming "they did it wrong" What got me was the younger sister's very disturbing behavior of wanting to take the body home and sleep with it.
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Post by vitugglan on Jan 20, 2018 13:08:11 GMT -5
I wondered if she dug up the body and had it sleep on her bed one last time before taking it to the crematorium. She sounds disturbed, but again, all of this could just be a reaction to grief that seems foreign to both sisters.
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Post by spaniardx on Feb 13, 2018 8:48:22 GMT -5
I'm not ready to let grandma babysit my newborn!Second letter: Leave now and let him marry the nice girl his parents arranged for him. Third letter: And, look! He hasn't changed one bit! You maintained contact at his insistence and now this. Tell him to blow it out his ear and block him.
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Post by vitugglan on Feb 13, 2018 12:34:08 GMT -5
Second letter: Agree. Set him free. Set yourself free. Remain friends if that's what you both want but realize you're not compatible.
Third letter: Block him. Block him on social media (you can block someone who isn't a friend of yours on FB as well as former friends.) Shut him out of your life.
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Post by vitugglan on Feb 13, 2018 12:47:35 GMT -5
Last letter, 'Vacation.' His ex is remarried, and they all go on vacation together at least twice a year. I find this completely bizarre...
I grew up in that sort of situation, though we never went on vacations with my sister's mom and step-dad. I called them 'aunt' and 'uncle,' my mom and her mom got along so well that, when I was very little I thought they were sisters, and we continued this relationship into my adulthood with my two eldest also calling them 'aunt' and 'uncle.' It isn't weird, it's two people who like each other but can't live together and who have set aside differences for their child.
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Post by spaniardx on Feb 13, 2018 22:43:54 GMT -5
LW sounds like one of those women who wants to completely erase the past of their now SO.
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Post by vitugglan on Feb 14, 2018 7:42:59 GMT -5
People in the comments suggested that Hubby and New Wife vacation with the ex-Family once a year, then do a vacation on their own once a year, possibly taking the kids along. I can certainly see how LW might feel left out or sidelined with this twice a year tradition but if this is the only fly in their soup of life it's a good idea to explore variations.
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Post by spaniardx on Mar 5, 2018 22:02:18 GMT -5
My Sister Thinks My Pregnancy Is Ruining Her Wedding.#01 It has already blown up with your sister's Bridezilla behavior. Resign as her Maid of Honor, and do it yesterday, or she'll drag this out your entire pregnancy. And, don't be surprised when you name your little one she then swells up and pouts more because "you stole her future baby's name"... #03: Why do people always think that "forgive (and forget)" means you are now obligated to let the @$$ hole back into your life? Tell Sally "My side of the divide is healed and I have moved on." Then tell Sally farewell. And hope that John never serves her as he did you. #05 The "what the hell is wrong with you?! Grow up!" works. Some times firm without the polite is what folks need. #06 Send "Rose" home to her parents when the move out date rolls around. And brace yourself for backlash from her friends.
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Post by vitugglan on Mar 6, 2018 3:15:52 GMT -5
#1 - Mallory's answer to LW won't mollify or quiet the sister down. Your advice is better: resign as MoH. LW's wish, to retreat with just hubby and baby, is the way to go here. I'll be a little more generous than you - sometime, somehow, Bridezilla will snap out of the Bridezilla trance and feel sheepish. How she handles it at that point will be the proof of her maturity and core. I'll note that at least one comment has the letter from the sister's perspective. Having been pregnant and emotional, I can acknowledge that sometimes preggos get things wrong. I still think that resigning is the best option.
#2 is downright ridiculous. My SiL's parents use one account for FB, and they occasionally change the name from just his to His First, Her First, Their Last, then back again. (They'd better watch it, FB only allows so many name changes - my friend's granddaughter, who went through a stage of wanting to be 'Nathan,' now can't change her name back to her own name.) My step-sister and her husband have combined their names in their emails ('Jane' + 'Dave' = 'Jave.') One of my late cousin's granddaughters (who is in her late thirties) uses His First, Her First, Their Last for FB. But more than examples of not-so-old people doing it, back in the day when we only had telephones for folks to annoy us with spam, women were advised to either use their initials (J. Doe) or their husband's name (John Doe) even if the husband had died. Grandma's probably following that old tenant.
#3 - Move on. I'd question 'Sally,' I'd question why 'John' is even seeing her (not to her, but in my own mind.) If he was (presumably clinically) depressed, he needs to come to meet LW on some neutral ground, admit what he did so everyone knows she wasn't 'OTT', and apologize. And, he should have no expectation of being taken back. He did it once, IMO he'll do it again.
#5: "What the hell is wrong with you? Don't you know that jokes like that could get my wife sacked, and possibly even dragged into court if some pearl-clutching parent hears you? It makes both of us uncomfortable by magnitudes of the nth degree. Don't say it again or we might have to consider cutting you out of our social life.'
#6: What is with society that people think an ex should 'be supportive' in such a situation? Back to the 'forgive and forget' of #3 - no. Hell, no. Give Rose a 'date certain' to quote Judge Judy, mark it on the calendar in big, red letters, and remind her periodically that this is the date, then begin eviction proceedings if she doesn't leave. Put it in writing. See a lawyer to make sure it's all legal. The problem might be that they're co-tenants on the lease and Rose decided to stay based on that. Then LW should get herself another place, go to the manager, get her name taken off the lease, and move out. Leave 'Rose' with the place and all the associated bills.
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Post by spaniardx on Mar 6, 2018 14:22:04 GMT -5
My understanding with #6 was that the abode was in LW's name and "Rose" moved in with her and isn't on the paperwork. Which is why I suggested "send her back to mom and dad".
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Post by vitugglan on Mar 7, 2018 7:29:33 GMT -5
Looking at it again, yes, LW does own her own place (in parentheses.) "Rose" is apparently bi or this letter would never have been written. I can totally understand LW's disinclination to keep seeing "Rose." I'm surprised she's let her stay on at all, let alone for this whole time.
I've been thinking. I've recently started writing on that fanfic again after all the hoopla over siding, problems the kids have, etc. This place offers messaging service, plus there's Google Docs. I'll try the message feature here.
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Post by spaniardx on Mar 9, 2018 15:39:04 GMT -5
I had been thinking of doing a second version of a board I had "back home". It was a Marvel comics board that I had to expand some what when the publication became The House of Mouse. Was going to start setting it up around Thanksgiving. Then it got pushed back further and further -- because life happens. Things seem to be settling just a bit ::knocks wood ::
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Post by vitugglan on Mar 10, 2018 1:23:45 GMT -5
I'll add to NuPru's advice: hook-up culture isn't for you.
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Post by spaniardx on May 7, 2018 17:12:13 GMT -5
I Ran Over and Killed My Neighbor’s Toddler. I’m Overcome With Guilt.Letter #2: More than likely, Jerry doesn't care how his actions impact other people. Thinking a quick rolling pin (better yet, cast iron skillet) to the teeth should get that P rick's attention. And, trust NuPru to miss the point of Jerry and his behavior and focus on the rest of the roomies, LW and boyfriend. And then had to have his nose rubbed in it a couple of letters down. And, it looks like we've been using the wrong pronoun with NuPru, at least according to the blurb inviting folks for more discussion of the topics on HIS facebook page.
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Post by vitugglan on May 7, 2018 23:33:15 GMT -5
In February 2018, Ortberg spoke to Autostraddle about the process of transitioning genders while writing The Merry Spinster. In March 2018, he was interviewed by Heather Havrilesky in New York magazine's The Cut about coming out as trans. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Mallory_OrtbergYeah, missed the mark big time. 'Jerry' is an idiot, a donkey's maw. A note that says, 'Don't eat the cake' is why all the crying, pushing and shoving after 'Jerry' ate it. BF saying she could just bake another cake? Dump the jerk. I bake from scratch. No way in h-e-double-hockey-sticks would I bake a second directly after the first was eaten by a slug. Honestly, DMO, read the letter before going off on someone like that.
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